I often read articles about the pursuit of happiness and I also
think often that happiness is good to have but I know that permanent happiness
does not occur without having sadness. We experience continuous waves of happiness
and sadness during our lives.
People who are perceived as always being a “happy person”
are also considered not to be very clever or being shallow. When people are in
a sad mood they can actually think and see things more clearly and therefore
have the ability to solve problems in a more efficient way.
In my opinion, people talk about “happiness” as a permanent
feeling which is not the same as being happy. Being happy at various times of
one’s life is far more credulous than someone who says that he or she experiences
permanent happiness.
We all experience bursts of happiness as well as
sadness. Life is full of ups and downs. When periods of sadness come into our lives, we
simply welcome happiness with more enthusiasm.
For some people a happy life is a life of pleasure, for
others happiness means success in one’s career or the accumulation of wealth.
The more desirable or expensive the good they buy, the happier they
become. A life spent pursuing constant
pleasures in order to receive automatic rewards cannot be durable or at the end
truly rewarding.
For others, a happy life is being altruistic. Doing something meaningful for others such as
volunteering, donating money or working for a worthy cause can be a great
source of satisfaction. Even if your motivation for being altruistic is in
order to receive admiration or recognition from others it is still rewarding as
well as a way of giving back and helping others.
The key to true happiness is finding the real meaning to our
lives whether it is wanting to have a successful career, having a family,
getting married or forming good relationships with others.
Finally and, most importantly, you need to be successful in
finding something that you love to do without caring what the others think or
do. Only then you can find and enjoy
true happiness and be strong enough to overcome the inevitable periods of
sadness that every one must endure at one time or another.
Copyright by Yilva
Kalmanson
